...Our Family...

Friday, September 25, 2009


Happy 1 Year Referralversary!!!

It's been 1 year since we saw our Micah David for the first time. I can't believe how time has flown! So much of this year was spent waiting, praying, dreaming, crying for our baby. Now we are so blessed to be chasing after him and trying to keep that precious smile on his face!!!

He's gone through so much since our first meeting. He can walk, talk, laugh, sing, dance, run after his brother, hit, laugh at himself in the mirror, play peek-a-boo and duck duck goose, and make ANYONE who meets him fall madly in love.

He's our JOY!

Enjoy the video!!!

View this montage created at One True Media
Happy Referralversary!!!

Monday, September 14, 2009

Manic Monday Picture

There's nothing like a box to make hours of fun!

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Saturday, September 12, 2009

Sweet baby ray

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Chad aint nothin but a hole digger

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More beach fun

Yes, friends, they are playing together. Gone are the days of 'Mommy, get Micah now!!!' Enter the days of the brothers as God intended.
What joy!

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Cheesecake at the beach!

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Beach fun

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Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Meet Desi Low!!!!!

Jeremiah Desalegne Low

This little guy STOLE our hearts while we were in Ethiopia. After a long wait, four failed court attempts, and lots of tears and prayers, this DELICIOUS sweety is finally coming home to his family. We couldn't be happier for the Lows!

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Family, Finally

I know what you're thinking. "You've been a family since you got home!" Well, yes and no. We were a family outwardly because we had all the ingredients. We lived in the same home, we ate together, worshiped together, belonged to each other. But there was an alien in our house, a really cute, loved, amazing alien, but an alien non the less.

We knew he was ours but it took time to sink in, to feel whole, to feel natural. For Chad and I, the love was instant. We have adored Micah from day 1. For Devon, Micah was the competition who swooped in took all the attention and turned his world upside down. It's hard to be a family when one child does not love the other.

It was rough. We didn't FEEL like a family. The adoption roller coaster didn't stop when we got home. We got off the "waiting, traveling" coaster and on to the "waiting to be "normal" coaster. This was unexpected and hard to take.

But days went by and slowly but surely Devon began to love Micah, Micah began to attach to us, we began to feel a deep attachment for him, and the family began to emerge.

But it's a different family.

It doesn't look like it used to. I am not the Mom I was. There are fewer cookies, missed appointments, late payments, piles of dirty laundry that were not there before Micah. There are less play-dates, even less dinners out, and virtually NO date nights.

But this family has MORE. More love, more laughter, more joy, more fun. Two times the dirty faces, two times the smiles. Two times the screams, two times the laughter. Two times the laundry, two times the mud pies.


Tuesday, July 21, 2009

The Books I'm Reading (says MUCH about our life!!!)

I don't have time to tell you all that's going on in our life, so I thought I would give you a list of what I am reading. This will tell you much more than I have energy to tell you!

  • The Psalms- This book has meant so much to me this year. I can't get enough of our Father's amazing poetry, so full of love, heartache, pain, hope, relief, comfort, and praise!

  • "Why ADHD Doesn't Mean Disaster"- SUCH A GREAT BOOK! This is requiring a paradigm shift in my thinking in such a great way. ADHD does not have to be a disability, but rather a DIVIDEND. We are all made in God's image for His purposes. This book is going to help us figure out how to maximize the potential of our dashing, dreaming D.

  • "Parenting the Spirited Child"- Yeah, that should be self explanatory. ;0)

  • "Toddler Adoption"- We thought we were bringing home an infant. God had other plans. I obviously have catching up to do.

  • "Good Night, Sleep Tight"- No, he's not sleeping through the night yet. ;-) A "how to get your kid to sleep without killing yourself" manual. So far it's working pretty well.

  • "Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows"- because I re-read The Half-Blood Prince and couldn't get enough, again.

  • "A Wife After God's Own Heart"- This one I have read before. I needed a refresher. Somewhere between poopy diapers, Popsicle kisses, and sleepless nights I forgot about my #1 man. What can I say, I'm working on it, hence the book.

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Holidays, Haircuts, and Happenings

Happy Birthday Mommy, spent at the lake and beach with two water babies, a hero hubby, and great MIL.

Two of my favorite pictures of Micah and Mommy

Gorgeous Night Sitting Along The Dam

Silly Family, Fun Days

Friday, July 10, 2009

The Unimaginable...Please Pray

Erica Reed is kind, sweet, encouraging, and has walked a difficult journey. Today, the worst news was given to her family. Their beautiful angel, Julianna, has gone to heaven. They were to travel in 2 weeks, they were to hold her in 2 weeks, they waited 2 years.

The unimaginable.

Please pray for the Reed family. They are strong and faithful but they are hurting. They need our prayers, our arms to hold them up as they release their sweet daughter to her home.

Please pray.


Racism and Reactions

Today is a really sad day in our house. Micah and I (Devon was thankfully at camp) were verbally assaulted at a grocery store by an evil, angry man who took offense when I placed Micah on the belt to change carts. I don't want to go into details of what he said but I have to say I have never been called such awful, mean, evil things.

Then he called Micah, my sweet baby, the "N" word.

Nothing prepares you for this moment, the moment when you realize that someone hates your loving, kind, sweet child because of His beautiful GOD DESIGNED skin tone. I don't understand it; I never will.

My heart is broken because I know this is not the last time THAT WORD will ring in his ears. What a sad, sad day for us.

I reacted well, I think. I asked him to stop, told him I was sorry, told him I didn't believe I deserved his reaction, told him I would pray for him, then threatened to call the police. At that, he left us alone.

Why? Why is my son's skin so offensive? What do you say to a man filled with hatred at a 14 month old baby?

I don't know what to say but I know this makes me long for heaven, for a day when we will all see God's creation as it is-- beautiful yet fallen.

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Our Month In Pictures

Love Is Growing!!!

Bubble Fun!

Sprinkler Time

Chillin' with my ETBFF Elias

Look what I can do!!!


Baptism Cake

Learning to pull up to a stand- Almost There!!!

You Got It!!!

Happy Silly Boy

I'll EAT YOU UP!!!

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Our Sleep Solutions (not that we're sleeping yet ;0)

Today my house is clean, my dishes done, my to do list accomplished (well, for the most part), and my sanity gathered. Why, you may ask, because we are finally SLEEPING!!

No, not through the night fully, but we can see the light at the end of the tunnel and are getting more sleep each night. How, might you ask. Well, it hasn't been easy but here's what we did.

Step 1: Identify the negative behaviours and attachment woes.

FEAR OF BEING ALONG: Micah does not want to sleep alone in his room. Poor baby. He's never been alone. He slept, ate, played, bathed, etc. alongside many other children and caretakers. It's no wonder he's scared of being alone, especially at night in the dark.

THE BOTTLE: Micah is ADDICTED to his bottle. Every time he awoke he would demand a bottle to go back to sleep. Sometimes he just wanted a few sips, often a few ounces. He could wake up to 5 times a night, NO FUN!!! This added up to over eating and 4 ear infections. No good. This had to change for those reasons.

Most importantly, however, is the reality that as long as he is attached to his bottle for comfort, he will not look to us. How sad that he thinks his bottle is his mommy. Poor sweetie.

SCHEDULE ISSUES: Micah NEEDS a clear predictable schedule. This is tough to accomplish while managing Devon's needs and routine.

Step 2: Create New Positive Attachments

FEAR OF BEING ALONG: We've attached his crib to our bed as a sidecar. This way I can cradle his head in my arm while he's in his crib when he's sad or needs to be touched. So far this is really effective and has made the transition to napping and bedtime much easier.

So, we decided to break him of this habit. Not an easy task. He cried for hours a night and every nap time for 2 weeks. It's gotten easier, only 45 minutes each night, but isn't perfect yet. He still awakes at midnight and cries for about a half an hour then again at 4. This is steady improvement and we can see an end and restful nights in the future.

SCHEDULE: Micah naps and eats at the same time each day. Devon's day camp has really helped to keep us on schedule as well. He's gone three mornings a week from 9-12. I am able to focus on Micah's naps and food on these days. It's really helped.

Step 3: Assess and Evaluate DAILY
Each day we evaluate how the sleeping and eating patterns have gone. Some days are good, some days are not. It's tough to see the forest for the trees on hard days but it's important to evaluate none the less.

The lack of sleep can really make this tough.

The reality is that that this process is a tango, a few steps forward, a few back. Repeat.

But, we've come to believe that if you set boundaries for your children and love them, they will attach to you if it is God's will. We repeat this to ourselves as Micah screams in our arms pushing away from us each night.

Daily, there is a war of fear and concern raging in my head. The questions go round and round. Are we doing the right thing? Is there any way we can make this easier on him? Is it too soon for these changes? Is he ready for attachment changes yet?

There's no way to know the answers to these questions for sure right now. We're plodding along as if it IS the right choice because we believe its the only choice we have right now. For our sanity and family we must make these changes to better our nights, to better our lives, to better our hearts- Especially Micah's.

Monday, June 22, 2009

Our GAP Model Photo Shoot

Ok, so they are not actually Gap models, YET! The pictures turned out so well and, since we are not doing it again EVER (it was pure anarchy!) we bought most of them!

Enjoy my silly, sweet, wonderful, gorgeous, loving, zany boys!!!